In addition, the very concept of what was attractive was also drilled into our young brains, and unfortunately, what was considered attractive was informed by racism, ableism, ageism, and cis-gendered heterosexuality.
Even more unfortunate, the competition increased as girls became women.
She’s a much better writer than we have on the guy’s side of things!
Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.
”, upon expressing interest in a boy during my youth.
Girls were programmed to try desperately to be the most attractive girl around; we were taught that this made us more desirable to men, supposedly, and thus to society.
Most of that age-old advice is as pertinent as ever: Be yourself, smile, keep an open mind, and be honest.
I have lost count of how many times I heard the question, “Any competition?
” or “Are there any other girls at school after him?
I’m no slouch: tall, trim, own my own business, nice guy to a fault. “L, you are kind, decent, funny, and attractive but I just don’t feel enough “electricity” (aka infatuation) so I’m going to have to end it.”The biggest obstacle I face it is meeting this expectation of “rock me to my soul connection” fantasy man that even they can’t explain.
Whatever it is, apparently I don’t have enough of it. In thinking about it, I’m not even sure when they say that, it’s the real issue.